Isolating alone is scary and lonely. Advice on coping from a solo yachtswoman

Advice for isolating alone Silver Magazine

Dee Caffari is first woman to sail single-handed around the world. If you’re self isolating alone and struggling, here’s her advice about coping with the fear and loneliness…

Dee Caffari - tips for self isolating alone Silver Magazine Caffari, 47, has sailed around the world six times. She’s the first woman to have sailed single-handed and non-stop around the world in both directions. And is the only woman to have sailed non-stop around the world a total of three times.

In 2006 Dee became the first woman to sail solo, non-stop, around the world against the prevailing winds and currents and was awarded an MBE in recognition of her achievement.

If anyone has experience of spending long spells in her own company, for months on end, it’s Dee Caffari.

Staying strong mentally

Dealing with isolation as a single person is tough, and loneliness and anxiety can become constant factors. Without other people to spend time with, we can easily find it affecting our mental health.

“I have self-isolated on two occasions,” she explains. “Once when I took part in the Vendee Globe I spent three months at sea alone, and on the Aviva Challenge I was alone at sea for six months.

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“My home for that time was a 72ft boat with very few creature comforts and nothing in the way of entertainment, apart from my karaoke skills.

“Of course, I am well aware that my isolation was one of choice, and for very different reasons to the situation we find ourselves in now due to the Coronavirus. However, by sharing the strategies and learnings from being alone for these long periods of time, I hope that they will resonate with people that find themselves in a situation that is unfamiliar and scary.

“As mindful humans, we know we need to be physically isolated right now, but that doesn’t mean we have to be mentally isolated. Human contact and support are important at all times, but particularly in times of crisis or stress. Now, more than ever, we need to look out for each other.”



Keep communicating
This is reassuring for everyone. If you are the one self-isolating, it’s a morale boost to know people care, but it’s equally important for your friends and family to know that you are okay. Stay in touch and ask for help if you need it. A five minute chat once a day could really lift someone’s spirits and be something they look forward to.

Get some routine
Spending 24/7 alone is alien to many of us and will be a challenge for people that thrive on the company of others. Extroverts get their energy from others, so a lack of stimulation may lead to a drop in mood. For most of us, going to work, school or the gym is part of daily routine and now we have to fill that time. Having and sticking to a routine of some sort will help as it provides a focus and a reason to get going for the day. Having something to do will also make the time pass more quickly.

Make technology work for you
There are so many ways we can communicate these days; this is the time to make use of them. Skype, Facetime, email, text, phone calls, social media platforms – they’re all great ways to stay in touch.

Focus only on what you can control
Don’t waste energy worrying about things that are outside your control. We are bombarded with information via the media and we do need to take on board the news that is being distributed. However, if you find that listening to or reading the news is increasing your anxiety or stress levels, then limit your exposure to it. Many of us will be seriously impacted financially through job loses or lack of work. You are not alone. Make a manageable plan and seek help if you are feeling overwhelmed.

Be grateful
Focusing on the good will have a positive effect on your mental health. When you are having a tough day and finding it hard to cope, focus on getting through the next day or even the next few hours, rather than weeks or months. The sun will continue to rise and set. This situation will pass.

Look for the opportunities and be creative
Is there a project that you have wanted to take on but never had the time? Perhaps a bestseller in your head just waiting to be written? Is there work that you could do on a temporary basis? Necessity is the mother of invention, so perhaps now is the time to embark on something new.

Adapt to the new environment
As a round the world sailor, I am used to my environment changing very quickly and having to adapt to forces that are outside of my control. In the coming weeks and months, restrictions on our lives and the effects of this virus will no doubt make us feel angry, upset, worried and scared. These are natural emotions but will use mental energy. Accepting a situation allows you to think more clearly and calmly. Don’t fight it.


Dee Caffari - tips for self isolating alone Silver Magazine than anything, she says, this is a time to be pragmatic and realistic. A time to embrace change.

“The future will be different. That is the reality and we may as well embrace it. Mother Nature has flicked the reset button. We have an opportunity to re-evaluate and change our behaviour for the better.

“We are all too aware in today’s world that the only thing we can be certain of is change. Our ability to adapt to this change is what will define us. The current global pandemic is revealing that the majority of us fear the unknown and our reaction is to panic. Let’s come together in this time of adversity and support each other.”


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